Thursday, October 3, 2013

The Not So Sweet Side Of Life





The Transition: Profile of Darren Goudeau Jr.

         “We only brought three pairs of clothes, because that was how long the storms lasted, three days. This storm was real different though, It changed how we looked at life itself.” He wiped his face free of the few tears that had so quickly rushed from his eyes. Darren Goudeau was a nine year old New Orleans born young boy at the time of Hurricane Katrina who had never even imagined his life being turned upside down by the 2005 natural disaster.
      Darren sat with a very distant look on his face. Almost as if he were trying to not relive the moments of Katrina as he spoke to me. He fiddled with his Saints football team key chain and and began to speak on what he remembered on the day he left. “The Saturday and Sunday before Katrina, I had a few football games, like a tournament almost. It was sunny outside and it just seemed like a regular weekend. When I got home my grandmother had the news playing and all I heard was the Mayor urging us to evacuate the city. We were told to leave by Sunday morning at 11:30 or  we wouldn’t be able to leave anymore because the bridges would be shut down after that time.”
         He continued to go deeper and deeper into his mind to pull out the memories of those very long days. At this point he couldn’t sit still. He was constantly tapping his fingers on the coffee table that was filled with New Orleans styled mugs. Darren then proceeded to tell about how they transitioned into Memphis, Tn. “There were five trucks trailing us across the bridge into Memphis, filled with all my family members from cousins, aunts, uncles, and family friends. When we all actually made it to Memphis we went to this hotel on Union Ave. I don’t even think it’s there anymore. It was a more like a motel if you ask me. The walls were dingy white and the blankets on the bed were so thin. I did not at all want to be in that hotel for those three days till the storm passed over.”
      “We never usually left New Orleans during storms. We would all always just go to one person’s house and wade the storms out. So, I thought after those few days we would be going back to my home. I woke up on the second day of being at the hotel and saw my whole family sitting around the TV in silence. I got close enough to the TV so I could see what was going on. It was pure hell. The news was showing pictures of people sitting on the roofs of homes with blankets that had “HELP” painted across them. Homes were destroyed. Like, where all my childhood memories were and where I once played football, all those things were gone. I remember them showing my favorite place, Six Flags, it wasn’t called six flags back then but it was a danger zone. Nothing was left but ruins.”
      At this point Darren was trying to figure out what came next after his family had seen that they weren’t going to be able to go back to the place that they once loved so much. He began with, “My mom had asked the front desk workers at the hotel if they knew of anywhere we could go for emergency shelter. She told my mama about the S.O.S. shelter down the street that was for New Orleans evacuees. When we got to the shelter it was extremely hot on the inside. Like, the moment you set foot in there it was like the Devil himself had touched you. That shelter was one of the worst experiences of my life. I didn’t want to be in there with people I knew nothing about.” He cleared his throat quickly in between sentences to hold back the evident emotion that was trying to push through.
         Darren now wanted to move the place of the interview. He no longer wanted to speak in front of his mother so we went into the den that was filled with warm vibrant colors. Beautifully decorated with oversized vases and earth toned drapes. He continued exactly where we had left off. “My mama was tired of dealing with the shelter too. My family didn’t want to be there so we went to a church for help. At the church they adopted families and since we got there first we were one of the first to be adopted into the church with a family. The Gooden family adopted us and they were real welcoming. They had open arms to us and made us feel right at home.”
      “I think more than anything those people are the ones who helped us get familiarized with Memphis the most. It was like they had gone thru the storm too and wanted to emerge from the struggle with us. Yeah, I thought that was cool.” He started to smile a little at the thought of the family who so graciously comforted them in their time of need. As if he could feel the embrace of them surrounding him the more and more he spoke of their presence. “I remember when they helped my mom get me in school. That was like one of the best feelings ever. Mrs.Gooden walked into the school and simply told them “I have a fine young man here who wants to be our president one day, could you all help him with his education?” everybody in the front office smiled so big at me. Yeah that was a real good feeling.”
    Darren became very emotional at this point. Tears began to roll down his caramel colored face as he explained how much it meant to him to find people in Memphis who actually cared about his family and did not stereotype them like other people were doing the victims of Katrina. He started to choke over his word and couldn’t really speak. He had to take a moment to breathe and get his thoughts together before he could continue on with the interview. He stared off for a few minutes then began to speak again.
     “I feel like my transition from a place that I loved so much and that I called my home to Memphis was a very big step. It seemed like at first that I would never get used to the country way everyone here spoke or how everyone used weird slang. I really had to let everything process in my head and I just had to think that everyone in this city had to adjust to the New Orleans people who had come here just as much as we had to adjust to being here. So Katrina definitely was a factor that caused everyone to get a little uncomfortable and have to think twice”
       Darren began to wrap up the interview in a few short sentences. “It was all just a learning process for me. I had to learn that it’s okay to go through things, you know? I had to learn that life isn’t going to be smooth sailing and we all have to have each other’s back and be in each other’s corner because if we aren’t then things are going to get hard as hell. I’m so happy I got to come to Memphis and experience new things and meet some of the greatest people. I can’t lie, I miss New Orleans so damn bad but that’s not home for me anymore. New Orleans will always be my home city and I will always love that place, but here in Memphis is where I have built relationships and have grown to be the man I am today. This is now home for me.”





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